My last few posts have been about family, terrorism and feminism and I’m not really in the mood to write another tearjerker. Also I went to this really fun party, and just feel like writing something girly and Tumblr-esq. (I’m sure that’s not a word)
So as you know, I study in a girl’s college and let me tell you that the hierarchy in such an institution is set and there’s nothing you can do about it. Straight out of a cliché movie like ‘Mean Girls’ there are the plastics and then there are those who are well…. not so plastic. It isn’t uncommon for me to hear people say things like “Dude he’s way out of my league, this is never happening!” or “Why in the world is she dating him?!” Confession –I’ve said these exact same lines time and again.
Okay you’re probably confused now and saying things like “Fiona get to the point!” I shall. The last two years have taught me something, that there is no such thing as a ‘league’. The leagues that we set basically are just mental blocks we put for ourselves when we think someone is too good for us. What constitutes “too good” for you? Is it looks, popularity or personality?
Well first, looks are genetic (tough luck there’s nothing you can do about it!). Well maybe if you were rich you could.
Two, popularity is usually based on interests. Obviously if your idea of fun is arranging your college’s big cultural event, you’re social standing isn’t going to be as much as someone who is killing it in the city’s music scene. So that makes you less right? Hardly! You’re just gifted in a different way; a way that will get you a good job, that could be really beneficial for you in the future!
And finally personality! One of my favourite quotes goes like this “If you’re a five on the inside and a ten on the outside, then you’re a five”. This quote just rings so true to me every time I read or think of it. A person’s personality can completely change the world’s initial image of them. Hence, the math is simple. Have a great personality, and it nullifies the materialistic criteria of looks!
To be honest, while we’re bitching about that ‘random chick’ going out with the social butterfly, inside you’re all wondering how exactly she accomplished this ‘great feat’! The answer is simple – confidence. Everyone has ability, everyone has talent; some of us are extroverts and some of us relish a rainy day in with a beautiful novel. But what we all are is special. To be a youngster who knows their faults and their talents, to have a group of friends who genuinely love you and to be excellent in something that is special to you, is something admirable! Life is always going to throw you curve ball; you are going to fall more times than you rise. But don’t stay down; keep your head high and get that guy! (I sound like a rapist -_-) And hey they do say that opposites attract, so you never know! Screw those ‘mental’ leagues, follow your heart –it truly is all that matters.
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